Building Self Confidence Quickly

Money Can't Buy You Happiness, But Having Self Con...

2007-06-25T13:30:00.000+10:00

Money Can't Buy You Happiness,
But Having Self Confidence Can!

Have you ever considered what money and self confidence can do for your life?

Money is certainly powerful. It can buy you many things, such as the survival basics, like food, water and shelter. But it can also give you the luxuries in life, such as travel, expensive cars and designer clothes.

Have you also noticed that the things we buy with money are usually only really enjoyed in the short term?

Example 1:
Whenever you go on a holiday, soon after, you want another holiday, and sometimes you start wanting the next one before your current holiday has even finished!

Example 2:
It isn't long after getting a new car, that you want to upgrade again

Example 3:
How many times does it take for you to wear your new clothes before you go hunting for more?

We all seem to want money, yet the pleasures it gives us are usually very short term. We still end up dis-satisfied.

On the other hand HAVING SELF CONFIDENCE is much deeper and the happiness can last forever because it is a skill that lives inside you during your progress through life.

Let me give you some examples of what total self confidence can give you.....

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http://www.confidenceessentials.com/articles/having_self_confidence.htm

FREE Self Confidence Gaining Webinar Positions are...

2007-05-08T17:47:00.000+10:00

FREE Self Confidence Gaining Webinar

Positions are open for the first Confidence Essentials Self Confidence Gaining Webinar - hosted by Rohan Cox.

So what will be included in the Webinar?

My aim is to give you all the tools necessary for you to gain enough confidence that it will really change the quality of your life!

That is a HUGE statement, but I truly
believe it is true because I am going to:

Explain in great detail and clarity the 7 of my HOTTEST secrets that I use daily that gives me all the confidence I need with all my day to day business and personal tasks
Share the most common traps everyone who lack confidence (including you) fall into and never seem to get out of

Allocate a huge portion of the webinar to work closely with ALL of the participants answering their questions, and giving my tips and suggestions for each of their confidence issues they share

In a Nutshell -
You will get absolutely everything to ensure you can gain self confidence in any area of your life, have the skills to deal with the fears that arise and also handle stress with ease by the time this webinar is finished!

Webinar Details:

Thursday May 17, 2007

So if you want to be part of the Confidence Essentials
Self Confidence Building Webinar - Click Here

See you at the webinar,

Rohan Cox

Official Launch of The Self Confidence Mastery Mem...

2007-04-22T21:45:00.000+10:00

Official Launch of The Self Confidence Mastery Membership

We all have fears and doubts about certain issues in our life including:

Meeting people
Making new friends
Holding conversations with others (including strangers and members of the opposite sex).
Communicating effectively in your career or business
Making important phone calls for personal or business situations
Speaking up and voicing your opinion in discussions
Communicating clearly in all your relationships

And chances are you have been struggling with the fears in these situations for years.

The best news you have every heard has just arrived...

Because you can discover how to overcome the fears to gain self confidence in all the areas of life you are struggling with in the new and exciting Self Confidence membership titled - The Self Confidence Mastery Membership.

Your Free Membership includes:

The Confidence Boost Report:
A special report dedicated to explaining clearly what self confidence is,
why you have doubts and fears and of course some very cool, quick and easy steps to overcoming them.
10 Ways for you to increase your self confidence right now, including:
1) Believe in yourself
2) Experience
3) Change your thinking
4) Be positive
5) Find people who pull you up, not down
6) Read and learn new information/skills
7) Ask the right questions
8) Manipulate your internal dialogue
9) Avoid being intimidated
10) Taking control of the fear that has control of you

You have everything you need to understand why you feel the fears, how to deal with them and gain the self confidence to life a fulfilled life.

You can get started by going to:
http://www.ConfidenceEssentials.com/members/index.htm

(Enter your name as your USERNAME and your email address as your PASSWORD).

Enjoy!

Confidently Yours,
Rohan Cox

Inspirational and Motivational Confidence Boosting...

2007-03-15T22:55:00.000+11:00

Inspirational and Motivational
Confidence Boosting Video

During the week, I was forwarded a link to an inspiring and motivating video and wanted to share it with you.

I am sure you will also find it very motivating for whatever your goals are in life.

While it isn't specifically on self confidence, it is related, as we need to go that "extra step" to achieve the things we really want in life.

And to do that, we sure need to gain more confidence in ourselves to go that little bit further out of our comfort zone to achieve our goals.

Here is the link. http://www.212amovie.com

enjoy :)

Rohan Cox
Confidence Essentials

To learn The Essential Steps For Total Confidence, Click Here
**With BONUS mentoring for extra confidence**

FREE Audio Interview Download Recently Julie Bartk...

2007-02-10T00:38:00.000+11:00

FREE Audio Interview Download

Recently Julie Bartkus from http://www.motivateteachers.com/ tracked me down to interview me about self confidence. She helps child care professionals create dynamic, positive, and productive environments for working and learning through customized keynote presentations, workshops, coaching and consulting services.

Julie dug deep with her questions getting me to share many areas of my personal life when I really lacked self esteem and confidence.

I shared what the first 20 years of my life was like. I explained that I was a social disaster and used to make all the excuses I could think of to avoid socialising with anyone and everyone.

Then I explained exactly what turned my life around and how I went about saying good bye to the paralysing fears that ruled my life for so long.

During this period, I realised one of the most important things about self confidence.

I realised that everyone lacks confidence with something in their lives (even the people who always look confident). We all have fears and are challenged with various aspects of our lives.

It's all about your perception of the issue and how you deal with it that determines the level of fear and confidence you have, and you can actually control this. You determine if fear rules the situation or if self confidence does.

So whether you are struggling with confidence or only lack confidence in certain areas of your life, this interview and the strategies shared can certainly be used to get desired results.

To download the interview, right click here and select "Save Target As".

If you are wanting to take full control and power over your fears for such challenges in your life, you can start mastering your self confidence here with "The Essential Steps For Total Confidence" and bonus mentoring to make sure you take charge of all aspects of your life.

This week's focus on improving your confidence rig...

2007-01-11T19:30:00.000+11:00

This week's focus on improving
your confidence right now is:
BE THANKFUL

Virtually every person alive is afraid (or doesn't want) to die yet. Because if they did, they would have committed suicide a long time ago.

There is so much in our lives that we take for granted and rarely ever take the time to appreciate.

Through my travels, I have noticed that people in poorer countries like Vietnam and Philippines generally appreciate life and are happier than those in wealthier countries such as Australia and USA. Many of those in richer countries have everything they could ever want, but still complain and feel dis-satisfied with parts of their lives (or even their whole life)!

In my opinion, the reason why the "poorer" people are happy is because they understand that the basics are the most important elements. They have family and friends and very few possessions and yet they are thankful and appreciative. To me, this makes them "richer" than most of the "wealthier" people of the world.

Many of them view spending a week at the beach with the family and friends to be a special holiday!

The "wealthy" on the other hand spend more on fast food in a year than the poorer people earn in a year! They have everything they could ever need and so much more yet they are generally dissatisfied with their lives.

If we begin to adopt the idea of being thankful for EVERYTHING we have in our life, including all the people we have, we would start to live life on a happier and brighter level. A level of appreciation, happiness, and peace.

The better we feel, the more we are able to increase our energy, focus, results, self esteem and confidence. Start listing or thinking deeply about all the things you can be thankful for in your life. Don't forget the basic things like shelter, bed, refrigerator, clothes, friends, variety of food and even the freedom to choose.

I recommend you do this every day when you wake up. It's a nice way to start the day, and do it whenever you start to feel dis-satisfied.

Whenever you have a hard time appreciating anything in your life, always think of those who don't have it (bed, shelter, partner, freedom, job, luxury, holiday, money). You will quickly start appreciating even things that seem so common. This truly is a powerful experience.

I have just finished writing an ebook titled "40 W...

2006-11-23T15:13:00.000+11:00

I have just finished writing an ebook titled "40 Ways To Increase Your Confidence Right Now" and feel it would be appropriate to give you an insight.

For the next few weeks, I will share one of the ways for you to increase your confidence immediately...

This week's focus on
improving your confidence right now is:

USING YOUR CURRENT SKILLS

We all possess skills and knowledge that others around us do not have. All you have to do is find those poeple and offer your skills/knowledge to them.

What are you good at?
>> Are you good with kids?
>> Are you good at changing nappies?
>> Are you good at cleaning or ironing?
>> Are you good with pets?
>> Are you good with cars?
>> Are you good with gardening or landscaping?
>> Are you good with computers, the Internet or emails?
>> Are you good at finding bargains?
>> Are you good at foreign languages?
>> Are you good at cooking?

Whatever it is you are good at, find someone who is not good at those areas. Simply offer to help or show/explain how to do it.

When I say "offer" your help...
>> Do not tell them they need your help (maybe they want to try and do it or learn it by themselves)

>> Do not go in there with the attitudue "Look at me, aren't I great for knowing this" (that puts people off more than anything else)

>> Do not tell them they are silly, stupid or the like for not knowing. After all, they also have skills you don't have (this kind of attitude greatly affects the person's self esteem and confidence - I'm sure you have experienced this feeling before)

>> Simply offer help and explain what you are doing.

For you it's a piece of cake, but for them it's not, so be patient and enjoy helping. You will get so much praise. They will thank you a million times and will even say things like, "You are so smart" or "How did you do that?".

It's amazing. This alone will skyrocket your confidence, and of course you can do this every day if you like!

Until next week's tip, enjoy helping poeple with your skills and knowledge. Your confidence will find a new high this week. Oh and feel free to leave some comments updating me and other readers of your progress.

Rohan Cox
Author: "The Essential Steps For Total Confidence"

The Essential Steps To Building Self Confidence A...

2006-08-24T18:30:00.000+10:00

The Essential Steps To Building Self Confidence
And Overcoming The Fear That Rules Your Actions

If you are like most people, you have been struggling wtih the issues of intense fear that you can't seem to overcome.

Whether it be:

Approaching a member of the opposite sex
Asking for a date
Starting conversations with strangers at social gatherings
Talking with others at business meetings
Making phone calls
Performing a new task in front of others

We all have that feeling of unbearable fear. But have you noticed that some people seem to be
super confident with such tasks?

Well you are right. While there will always be someone who doesn’t have fear with certain
tasks, they will with other tasks. In fact you are like that too.

What? You don't believe we all, including you, have supreme confidence with some actions?

I bet you do, even if it's just speaking English (or your native language), walking, or putting
food in your mouth at each meal.

Why do you feel such intense fear
with some tasks but not others?

It is simply boiled down to three reasons:

The fear of the unknown
Negative past experiences reminding you that you can't do it
Self doubt in your ability

If you didn't care about the unknown, past experiences or whether or not you could achieve any task, there would be no question about “building self confidence”, you would simply have unstoppable confidence and total self-esteem all the time.

But it's our insatiable need to look good, cool and smart (which means not making mistakes) that creates all these worries and fears in us. So you really need to take control of this, because at the moment, these forces are controlling you.

To start gaining control of the “fear forces”, you need to break down the three reasons down.

The fear of the unknown
We have to acknowledge the fact that there is always an element of unknown with everything we do. The more we try to resist the fear of the unknown, the more it persists and the stronger it gets.

Example:
You want to call an old friend who you hadn’t spoken to for over one year. You start to get the “what if” fears:

“What if they don’t want to talk with me?”

or

“What if they don’t remember who I am, how silly will I sound?”

This fear of the unknown is ruling your thinking and ultimately your actions.

No one knows what will happen or how they will react. For all we know the number may not even be active anymore!

Rather than driving yourself crazy trying to solve or overcome these “what if unknown’s” before taking any action, accept they are there and take them as they come.

Relax and take them in your stride. You can’t do anything about them until they arrive, so don’t worry about them until it’s time.

This way you can start building self confidence on a solid foundation

Negative past experiences reminding you that you can't do it
The past always reminds us of what has happened and if they were negative experiences, where things didn’t go as planned, we use them as reality.

Example:
Last month you saw a very attractive guy/girl. You went up to them to start a conversation.

You said “Hello, how are you today?”
He/she said, “hi” then looked away or even worse…walked away, causing you to feel really rejected.

A month later, you see another attractive guy/girl and you start
to approach them when your brain kicks in and reminds you of the past:

”You can’t do it”
”He/she will reject you again”

Then the fear/self-doubt kicks in and you are paralyzed to move forward with your plan. But it doesn’t have to be this way.

We are all aware that some people will accept your offerings (whatever they are – conversation, product/service, smile, greeting and so on) and some people won’t.

In fact, stop and think about how many people you have said NO to (“rejected”) in the past week?

Telemarketers
Shop clerks
Advertisements (TV, radio, newspaper, Internet)
Restaurants (upsizing your food or drink order, today’s specials)
Parents/Kids (asking/offering to do something, go somewhere)

And the list goes on.

With all of these, you never think it is “rejection” or have any negative emotion attached to it. But when you are the one offering and the other person doesn’t’ accept, you feel it to be a rejection.

Interesting!

Which leads me back to the story…

Just because the previous guy/girl didn’t want to communicate with you, doesn’t mean this next one will react in the same way. It’s a different person and a different circumstance.

No one knows what will happen. The only way to find out is to go for it and not be stopped short because of your fears.

Self doubt in your ability
Whenever you “fail” to produce the results you wanted, believed or planned, many people are quick to justify the results. In fact some people are really skilful at convincing themselves that they can’t do it, saying things like:

“See, I tried and I can’t do it”
”I knew I couldn’t do it”
”Why should I even bother/try”

Just because you didn’t do it last time doesn’t mean you can’t. We need to be thinking positively like

“if others can do it, so can I. I’m going to find out everything I need to know in order to pull it off”

” know some will accept, some will not, so I’m going to keep going until I get the results”

You will also find that the higher level of importance you associate with any activity the stronger the fear. So maybe you should ask yourself

"Do I really have to take it so seriously?"

How often are you too serious with events that you could have or should have taken a lighter attitude towards?

Start thinking to yourself,

“Do I really need to take this so seriously?”
”What if I don’t get the result I’m after?”

Remember that some people will accept your offer, some will not.

It’s just like being a waiter/waitress walking around with a tray of cocktails offering them to people. Don’t be offended if someone doesn’t accept your offer, move on and find someone who will.

This has been taken from our ebook “The Essential Steps For Total Confidence”, but is just the
tip of the iceberg. Building self confidence is easy. Start now.

Building Self Confidence By Avoiding The Trap Past...

2005-10-13T23:23:00.000+10:00

Building Self Confidence By Avoiding
The Trap Past Experiences Can Give You In Life.

One of the biggest potential problems we face with every action we take are our past experiences. In fact, as humans the only reference we have whenever we take some kind of action are our past experiences. There is nothing else we can go by for an indication of expected results.

I'm sure you can already see how this can affect your level of confidence and by taking one step beyond relying on past experiences, you will be able to start building your self confidence quickly.

But if you just rely on the past, you will find that if your past experiences were good, it will be a huge confidence builder for you. However, if your past experiences were unpleasant, you will have a huge lack of self confidence.

Unfortunately, this is total nonsense. Although humans need confirmation to feel safe and secure, which our past experiences can provide, they also eliminate the option of “the result may be different this time” which is one of the paralyzing elements many people face when they lack confidence.

They get stuck in that process of automatically falling back on past experiences and results and selling themselves on it, rather than becoming aware of the past but allowing other options into the equation.

You may have experienced this before. No matter how many times you confront a situation where you lack the confidence to take assertive action, you continually lock yourself into the mindset and body language of previous results, instead of really analyzing all the options available. This virtually guarantees the same result every time, because you convince yourself into believing this is your only chance, choice or option.

Don’t let past experiences or results paralyze you, your views, actions or results. It only kills your self-confidence. You can open up possibilities that you never thought possible with a little alteration of your thinking pattern. Be resistant to your natural reactions. When you start to see yourself think, “Here we go again. I’m going to fail again”, you need to interrupt your thoughts, take a step back or take a moment to think what other outcomes are possible and be optimistic as well as realistic with what you can achieve.

When I face this situation, I like to I use other people as inspiration. I say to myself, “If others can do it, so can I” (even when I have failed at this task before). This thought and belief process really works.

Example:
Getting a birdie in golf (for you non-golfers, this means that you get the ball in the hole in one less stroke than is “suggested”)

Before we progress, I must confess, I only play about twice a year, so achieving this would be almost a miracle at the moment for me. But if I took the time to play more, take it seriously, maybe get some coaching etc, I’m sure I’d be able to achieve it at some point in time.

Now it's very unlikely I will achieve this in the first twenty attempts or so. But even though I "failed" to achieve or succeed in this goal, it doesn't mean I will never do it. With some positive thinking, feelings and attitude about getting a birdie one day, I can start building self-confidence and one day achieve the desired result.

In fact, if you stick with it long enough with the right positive surroundings (coach, thinking, feeling, confidence, attitude etc), success in anything is almost inevitable, including: getting a job, getting a promotion, picking up a girl/guy, getting a phone number, making conversations with a stranger, negotiating for a car, house (or anything for that matter), starting a business, becoming a professional athlete, movie star or musician, and the list is endless.

Just remember, that each time you try something, it’s not your last chance. There is always a next time. So don’t put too much emphasis or importance on the task you are trying to accomplish. Just because you can’t do it now, doesn’t mean you will never be able to. It’s not the end of your confidence or the world.

When you feel the butterflies flying in your stomach, follow these steps:

Stop.
Take a step back from the situation.
Analyze why you are feeling a lack of confidence.
Find the positive sides of the situation.
Look for alternative views, thoughts and methods of getting the job done.
Take action.
Don’t worry about the result. If it doesn’t work out, you have next time to improve (repeat steps 1-7 again).

Confidently Yours,
Rohan Cox
Start building self confidence now!

Build Confidence By Taking A Step Back And Taking ...

2005-09-12T17:23:00.000+10:00

Build Confidence By Taking A Step Back And
Taking A Look At The REAL Picture

When you are facing an issue where you have a lack of self confidence, how much of the picture can you really see? I bet it’s not much at all. While you may think you see the whole picture clearly, my experiences tell me otherwise.

Most of the time when we lack confidence, the only thing we see is the negative side of the issue (or the part that is causing us the anxiety and problems).

Next time you are facing a scenario where you lack confidence, take a moment to stop and analyze what is really happening.

Take time to:

Notice what thing/s you are focusing on.
Notice which area/s are taking your confidence away from you.
Notice what other issues/areas of this scenario are present but you were not initially aware of.
Find the positive/s of this issue.
Find the negative/s of this issue.

Try to take a different angle than your original view.

Rather than zooming right into the area/s which cause you the most discomfort and lack of self confidence, take a step back and take a good look at the whole picture. You will open up more possibilities, rather than going along with the one and only painful choice you thought existed.

You will be able to analyze the situation and have a choice rather than be forced to act upon the painful option that was first available. The more you analyze, the more you will be able to see both positive and negative sides to the scenario and have the freedom to choose which path you prefer to take. This in itself will give you a huge confidence boost.

Before we continue on, let me just say that while all this is very simple in theory, it’s much more difficult to achieve all this in real life situations, but it is possible. The more you work at it, the more you will be able to remove yourself from the feeling of no confidence to choosing a more pleasing option to help you build self confidence quickly.

Remember, every situation has both positive and negative points. By taking a step back and pausing, you will be able to identify them and then have the power to choose which one to take.

Most of the time, we feel so pressurized into situations and believe we only have one option when confronted with a situation that gives us a lack of self confidence.

Here is my own personal example of this, which happened just recently.

I have a female friend who I totally respect and admire. She is a very powerful and influential person in her community and a successful business woman. We have been out together on a few occasions and had great times together. Yet, today, I had the urge to ask her out on a date.

Now at first I was a little intimidated and therefore could feel my confidence dropping. So I took a few seconds to pause, take a step back and weighed up the pros and cons of the situation.

Not long after, I came to the conclusion that I would call her and make a light joke about asking her out so I wouldn’t be so intimidated and actually have some confidence in my voice.

The complete conversation went like this:

The phone rings.

The girl: Hello
Me: Hi, how you going?
The girl: Hi, good thanks, u?
Me: Great. Where are you, I can hear a bit of noise.
The Girl: I’m at the restaurant, getting some signs put in.
Me: Wow, already? You are a workaholic aren’t you?
The Girl: Yes, I am.
Me: You need some time off. When do you have some free time?
The Girl: I’m free on the weekend.
Me: OK, I’ll take you out on a date to give you some time off.
The Girl: Where are you going to take me?
Me: The movies, ok?
The Girl: Sure.
Me: OK, I’ll call you on Friday to confirm ok?
The Girl: Ok, speak with you then, bye.
Me: Bye.

As you can see, the conversation was short and to the point, but by changing the focus a little from focusing on my lack of confidence to things about her, such as:
“You are a workaholic”
and adding some humor such as,
“You need some time off”

By doing this I was able to bypass the feeling of no confidence and still deal with the matter and ask her out on a date with confidence and with some authority in my voice.

You will be surprised how you can feel and what you can achieve by taking that step back to look for better or more comfortable ways to perform the same tasks.

Confidently yours,
Rohan Cox

How To Gain Confidence Quickly And Effortlessly Wh...

2005-08-21T20:00:00.000+10:00

How To Gain Confidence Quickly And Effortlessly When You Feel the World is Against You.

Have you ever felt the whole world was against you? No matter what you try, you just can't succeed, causing you to have a total lack of self-confidence. You may even feel that way now, but what I am about to share with you should pull you out of that place and into a mindset and feeling of total possibility and success to ensure you boost your self-confidence rapidly.

While you feel isolated from everyone else when you are going through this phase with no confidence, within the next few minutes you will learn that you are not alone at all. In fact you will discover that you have more support at your disposal than you thought possible guaranteeing you to build confidence.

While some people revert to eating, shopping, crying, screaming or even, hibernating from everyone, I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you that these reactions don’t help the situation or your self-confidence very much. Instead of running that “spit the dummy” routine when you are feeling like a failure, let’s transfer your focus and energy on something that may help your cause, instead of magnifying it.

The quickest way to do this is turning to your supporters. Firstly you need to know:

Who are your supporters?
Who can help pull you out of this emotional downtime?
Who can give you that confidence boost?

I call this emotional downtime, because, while you feel like a loser with no confidence, it’s only your emotions which are responsible for your results. Your actual knowledge and skills are good enough to succeed, but it’s your pessimistic focus that drives your negative emotions which in turn give you the disappointing results that you produce when in this state resulting in no confidence. When you are in such an emotional downtime, it’s virtually impossible to turn yourself around by yourself.

All you need to do is alter your thoughts and views which in turn will turn your emotions and results around 180 degrees. But it's very difficult to do by yourself.

Example:
You have been to five job interviews and failed to get the job on all occasions. Of course now you have a lack of self confidence and are starting to think negatively about the next job interview. You may start saying things like, "I'm a loser", "I'll never get a job", "I'm not good enough" and so on.

Now it will be almost impossible for you to walk into the next job interview with optimistic expectations and be upbeat. Instead you will be thinking "why bother".

Reading this now, I'm sure you will agree that it is all so obvious. But take yourself back to some similar situations that you have been in and remember that you too reacted in such a no hope attitude, shutting off the possibility of a positive outcome. It's very hard to turn it around by yourself!

But with the help of others, this can be done quickly and easily.

Just like any business person or athlete, whenever they question their ability to produce the necessary results, they turn to their coach to pull them out rather than trying to do it themselves because they know that at the time:

They are emotionally charged negatively to the situation, limiting possible outcomes and perceptions.
Their coach/supporter is not emotionally connected to the situation, and therefore can think logically.

Who is or can be your personal coach to pull you out of situations when you are feeling down with no confidence?

Think carefully here, you don’t want to choose the wrong coach.
Think of all your family members, friends, colleagues, neighbors, members of any clubs you belong to, shop owners etc. you have gotten to know.

Now all you have to do is contact them.

"Wait a minute" you might be saying. How am I supposed to contact them when I am feeling like this (as down as one can feel)?

Don’t worry, this is much easier than you think.

If you choose your coach wisely, you will have done it from the point of trust, love, respect and admiration. Chances are they feel the same way towards you, because over time you have both created an important and very strong friendship/relationship.

All you have to do is be open and honest and they will most likely accept your request with open arms.

You can simply say something like:

“I need your help. I am feeling really down right now and need someone to make me smile”.
“I’m really lacking confidence right now and need someone to snap me out of these negative thoughts I’m having, do you mind helping?"

The more open and honest you are, the more likely they will accept and do everything they can to help you out. People love to help others. It makes them feel good to know they have contributed to someone and they get praised, which makes them also feel special.

So all you have to do once they accept to help is:

Make sure you are willing to listen, learn and change your points of view. All you want to achieve out of this is a snap out of your negative thoughts to alter your feeling as a confidence builder. It doesn’t matter so much if they are right or not with whatever they say, just be open and willing to accept a fresh point of view to make this transition successful. It won't help at all if you are in denial and every time they say something that goes against your beliefs, you snap back at them saying they are wrong. Right and wrong does not matter right now. Getting you out of your emotional downtime is the only issue.
Praise them like mad, but be genuine. That way, they will feel good, knowing that you really respect their time and words of advice and will be very willing to help you again should you fall into the same emotional downtime again.

Don’t forget, you are NOT alone when you feel the world is against you and you have no confidence. Go to your “coaches” and use them to pull you out of the emotional downtime and move on confidently.

Best of luck in gaining confidence fast